Character

I used to be one of the folk that wracked up parental and/ relational trauma to the reasons why we have so much “character.”

HOWEVER,

in my deep dive into autism research,

the lessons I’ve learned from my son’s therapies,

the knowledge I’ve picked up from parenting training and books,

parenting errors,

conversations I’ve had with my closest friends,

daily analyses shared between my husband and I,

self-reflections that I’ve made with both my therapist and in journals,

I have come to realize that we didn’t all turn-out “just fine.”

I have come to realize that parental and/relational trauma are the reasons why we are anxious, self-questioning wreck-messes.

I’m pretty sure that’s just not the kind of characters we want to be.